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San Francisco Sex Therapist, Individual & Couples Therapist offering holistic attachment-based support.


Sex Therapy

EMDR for trauma

Art Therapy

Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy

LGBTQ+ Sex & Relationship Therapy

Trauma Healing through Expressive Arts Therapy

Attachment & Bonding


Sex Therapy

Libido/Desire Discrepancy between partners,

Learning how to talk about sex with partner(s)

Emotionally-Focused Therapy

IMAGO and attachment style

Non-Violent Communication

Gottman methods

Sexuality Issues & Trauma

LGBTQ+ Intimacy, Relationship, Gender and Sexuality Issues

Polyamory and Kink informed & Accepting

Multicultural issues

Healing Betrayal & Infidelity


Attachment & Emotional Connection

Co-parenting issues

And more

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We Speak Relationship.

We all face challenges in our lives that can benefit from the guidance of a compassionate therapist. These times can be an opportunity to expand our thinking and heal our past. I invite you to begin a better way to connect with yourself, your partner and family to improve the quality of your life. When life's transitions and circumstances are addressed in therapy, my client's feel better equipped to make change. I provide the tools and interventions that are specific to your needs and draw from an integrative approach for healing of the self and in context of relationship. When we heal and understand ourselves, we can better interact in the world.

I tailor my approach to best suit my clients' needs with a collaborative approach, whether I am doing couples counseling, sex therapy or trauma work with individuals.

Throughout my education, licensure, and personal growth, my primarily focus has been couples counseling, sex therapy, family therapy and individuals with relationship issues. I have worked with partners in both monogamous and non-monogamous partnerships, LGBTQ+ individuals and partners, kids, their parents, divorce, blended families, partner’s with depression or anxiety, but always through the lens of attachment-based modalities, such as IMAGO and Emotionally Focused Therapy. I draw tools from Gottman methods and Non-Violent Communication and Mindfulness-based CBT. And am always deepening my knowledge within the framework of relationships, such as the current efforts towards a sex therapy certification. With a dual-masters degree that included Art Therapy, my thesis was to create empathy between a couple using a directive to address Family of Origin issues and attachment style. I am also trained in EMDR for healing trauma and faulty beliefs and relational blocks. I am certified in sex therapy from California Institute of Integral Studies. I work with individuals and partners and am LGBTQ, polyamory, kink/BDSM aware and accepting and trauma informed.

-Jaqueline Lumer, MFT, San Francisco Sex Therapist & Couples Counselor

Jacqueline enjoys working with many types of clients with whom she can collaborate with--there is nothing more rewarding than to bare witness to someone's growth and potential. It is not the struggles or successes that define your life, but how you hold them within you.

Jacqueline Lumer has a dual-masters in Counseling Psychology and Art Therapy from Norte Dame de Namur in 2009. Certification in Sex Therapy through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and California Institute of Integral Studies.


Libido/Desire Discrepancy between partners is one of the most common issues I see in sex therapy.. San Francisco Intimacy & Sex Therapy Centers’ sexologists, Couples. Therapists and Sex therapists can help you learn to find balance and connect